The process of divorcing takes a lot of time and energy. This can impact the way that you start your new life, so you must ensure that you are taking steps to improve your situation. One thing that can really hold you back is the inability to let go of the past and move forward as a single person.
You shouldn't ever feel like you are alone. Approximately 75% of third marriages and 40% of first marriages end in divorce. This might seem shocking but it simply means that you should be able to find support from people who have been in a similar situation.
If you are having trouble coping with the divorce, consider reaching out to a therapist or joining a support group for divorced individuals. You could then openly talk about your struggles and triumphs with people who will appreciate what you're going through at the end of your marriage.
Another point that shocks some individuals is how intense they feel certain emotions related to the divorce. You might not have expected to be sad that your marriage ended, but this is likely going to happen at some point even if you were the one who filed. You might be glad to end the union, but mourn that you feel you wasted a good portion of your life. Then, you might long for the companionship you thought you would never have to seek elsewhere again.
When you divorce, you can create the life you want. Sit down and write out a five-year plan. Break down those goals into smaller ones that you can use to work toward the bigger goals. Doing this before you go through the divorce process can help you determine how property division can help you reach those goals.