Trying to make a new life for yourself isn’t always easy. In fact, it can be downright hard, especially when you have children counting on you to be there for them. When you transition from being a two-parent home to a single parent household, you have to find new ways to make things work. Consider the below suggestions as you try to reduce your stress so you can be the best parent possible for your children.

First, set the rules for the house. This lets the children know what is expected and also provides them with consequences for when the rules are broken. As tempting as it might be, resist the urge to let things slide at first. When the kids get away with unacceptable behavior, a dangerous precedent is set.

Second, find other single parents who can help support you. Often, the frustrations that come with single parenting are due to the feeling of being totally on your own. If possible, find another single parent who can share parenting duties sometimes by watching the kids for a bit so you have some alone time. You can reciprocate the favor by watching their children on another occasion.

Third, double check your finances. Money is a big cause of stress, so try to save money for your emergency fund. This can help you feel more stable just in case something comes up unexpectedly that costs a lot.

Fourth, remember that you are only human. You will make mistakes, but you can use these as learning experiences for your children so they can see appropriate ways to handle challenges in life.

Another thing that might help you is having a comprehensive parenting plan so that you don’t argue with your ex over what should happen. Everything you need to know about the situation is set in writing.