Divorce battles, including the ones over child custody, can wear you down mentally. When your ex is sociopath, you’re likely going to feel like you’re constantly fighting, but there is a technique you might be able to use that could help you to get the matters resolved without you having to put much effort into them – simply stop fighting.
This doesn’t mean that you should just give your ex everything they want. Instead, you have to stop engaging with them when they try to start drama. Allow your attorney to battle things out with your ex’s attorney, instead, while you maintain your distance.
A sociopath needs to have attention, so when you go head-to-head with them during the divorce, they thrive and gain strength. By taking away those interactions, you can pull that power away. Your attorney isn’t going to interact in the personal manner that feeds your ex’s need for attention or drama. Instead, it will be all business during any exchanges, but your lawyer will likely just turn to your ex’s attorney and limit the direct interactions.
It is going to take a lot of mental strength for you to keep this up throughout the legal process. If you have children, you may have to continue on even longer. In the case of a long-term parenting relationship, using monitored communication, such as through a parenting app, might help the situation. The key is that you have to remove yourself as far as possible, both mentally and physically, from the interactions your ex needs to feed their emotional fires.
While legally ending your marriage is the ultimate goal of the divorce process, it’s also smart to end your spouse’s source of emotional power over you. An experienced advocate may be able to help.