People often say that they want to “win” their divorces, but what does that really mean? Does that mean keeping your divorce private? Does it mean getting everything you want while ignoring your soon-to-be-ex-spouse’s needs and wants?
Usually, attempting to “win” a divorce leads to upset and conflict, which is why it’s a good idea to change your concept of winning. In reality, winning a divorce may mean getting through it without massive conflicts and without having to litigate. It means making sure both parties are satisfied and can move forward. If you have children, this is even more important.
Leave the drama behind with collaborative law
One nice thing to remember is that collaborative law is focused on you and your ex working together to come up with solutions. You’ll negotiate, yes, but you won’t need to go through lengthy court battles. You may save money compared to the number of billable hours in a typical litigated divorce, too.
Collaborative law gives you the opportunity to advocate for yourself and your children (if you have them) for a positive outcome. Instead of leaving your litigated case to chance at court, you’ll have the opportunity to work out a solution.
If you do choose to collaborate, you’re usually bound to do so. If you or your ex decide to walk away, then you’ll have to get a whole new team of attorneys or professionals to work with. As a result, agreeing to collaborate almost forces you to work together to come up with solutions, since failing to do so would end up being costly in more ways than one.
Collaborative law could work for your case, so it may be in your best interests to gather as much information on the topic as possible.