When you and your high school sweetheart got married you promised to stay with each other forever and always. Now that you are in your late 40s heading toward your 50s, things don’t seem to be so rosy. The two of you argue more than you talk, and you find that you are unhappy with the way your marriage is going.
Many people around the country are waking up to the realization that after 20 or more years of marriage, they are ready to move on. Dubbed “the gray divorce revolution” by researchers at Bowling Green State University in Ohio, divorce rates among this age group and up are at an all-time high.
What is behind the gray divorce revolution?
Some of the reasons behind the high divorce rate among this age group include:
- Feeling stuck or unhappy and deciding that you cannot live like this anymore.
- Becoming empty-nesters and no longer feeling like you need to stay together for the sake of the children.
- Addiction or alcoholism in your spouse is something that you can no longer tolerate.
- You and your spouse have simply outgrown each other and it is time to move on.
- Your spouse is abusive and you refuse to be a punching bag any longer.
- Financial issues, housekeeping or parenting style differences often lead to arguments.
Whatever the reason, going through a divorce after being married for such a long time won’t be easy. Even if you are the one to initiate it, divorce can take a toll on you mentally, physically and financially.
Talking with friends and family can help you deal with all of the emotions that you may experience, and you may want to consider peaceful options for your split, like a collaborative divorce. You should also reach out to an experienced legal advisor to help you navigate through the divorce process.