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Celebrating your child’s birthday when you’re divorced

On Behalf of | Jul 19, 2022 | Child Custody

Parents have to make many compromises when it comes to divorce. Celebrating your child’s birthday is one of them. With the big day approaching, you may find yourself wondering how best to celebrate this year?

Your child probably has an idea of how they’d like to celebrate. Take their wishes into consideration when you try to work out the birthday details with your ex-spouse. With a little careful planning, your child will have a birthday to remember, and both you and your ex will enjoy the day.

Options for celebrating the birthday child

In an ideal world, you and your ex-spouse can get along well enough to throw a joint birthday party. Your family and friends will come together and be civil, remembering that the birthday child comes first.

If this sounds like your situation, a joint party is a great option. Try to have it at a neutral location such as an arcade or party palace instead at your house. Having the party at home could open up some wounds from the divorce. Instead, let someone else do the cooking and clean up while you and your ex have fun with your child.

If it is not possible for you and your ex to peacefully coexist for a few hours together at a party, here are some other options:

  • Plan separate parties on different days. Check with your ex and set up a schedule for the celebrations.
  • Take turns hosting a party each year. This year is your turn. Next year is your ex’s turn.
  • Split the day with your ex. You can celebrate the birthday child at breakfast, and your ex can pick them up for dinner.

The most important thing to remember is that your child deserves a birthday free of arguments and turmoil. If you are not sure how to proceed, seek assistance with reviewing your custody arrangements.

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