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My spouse is a narcissist. How do I divorce them?

On Behalf of | Jul 5, 2023 | Divorce

Going through a divorce is tough. In fact, it is one of the most financially and emotionally taxing life experiences one can ever go through. However, divorce becomes even more hectic if your spouse has narcissistic tendencies.

Narcissists are generally manipulative and entitled. Whether your spouse is formally diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or is simply exhibiting narcissistic tendencies, these individuals can make an already emotionally fraught process even more difficult.

Here are two tips that can help you end your marriage with a narcissist.

Expect a protracted fight

It is not uncommon for divorcing couples to settle various aspects of the divorce out of court. If you are divorcing a narcissist, however, this is less likely to be a fruitful venture. It’s easy for a narcissist to turn on the charm and trap you into “negotiations” with the goal of taking advantage of the process.

Appreciate the fact that your divorce will most likely end up in court. Also, appreciate the fact that your spouse is going to be anything but reasonable.

Plan, plan and plan some more

Do not just wait for a fight. Prepare for it too so you are able to avoid costly mistakes while riding out the storm. Some of the steps you can take to prepare for the fight ahead include getting your support system together and backing up important documents. For instance, if you signed a prenup, this would be the time to keep it close. Also, if you agreed on something, like child custody and visitation, be sure to document this.

Ending a marriage with a narcissist can be messy, challenging and emotionally draining. Understanding what to do and the missteps to avoid can help you protect your interests while severing ties with a difficult spouse.