If you have been considering a collaborative approach to divorce instead of the more traditional, adversarial approach, then you likely already understand how the two are different.
But you probably still have multiple questions regarding the collaborative divorce process and what you can do to prepare.
Who is involved in a collaborative divorce?
The divorcing spouses each have an attorney trained in collaborative law. Rather than acting as opponents, these attorneys are advocates for their clients who maintain a cooperative mindset. There is a shared goal between the parties to reach an agreement that benefits both of them rather than focusing on conflict.
In addition to the attorneys, there are often additional professionals involved to address specific aspects of the divorce, such as:
- Financial advisors to assess assets, liabilities and the long-term financial impact
- Child therapists who can provide insight into the children’s emotional needs and also help in creating a co-parenting plan.
- A divorce coach or mental health professional to help both parties deal with their emotions and find healthy coping mechanisms.
Once you understand the process and have chosen the proper experts, you and your spouse should set clear goals and what you hope to achieve by going through the collaborative process. You and your spouse must also commit to transparency.
It then becomes essential to organize your finances and gather all of your documentation regarding income, expenses and retirement accounts. Having a clear understanding of your financial situation can make negotiations easier.
You can also prepare emotionally by having a cooperative mindset. Being respectful of each other and listening to each other is crucial for the collaborative process and can keep negotiations from breaking down, especially when addressing complex or contentious issues.
A collaborative divorce may not be the best option for everyone. However, when both parties are agreeable to the process and come to the table prepared, a collaborative divorce can help with the transition to the next stage of your life.