Young couples in the United States have had a declining divorce rate for a while now. There are many reasons, such as the rise of cohabitation or the fact that people now get married, on average, in their early 30s.
But for older couples, the divorce rate has been going up. These are known as gray divorce cases. Someone in their 50s or 60s is much more likely to get divorced today than they would’ve been just a few decades ago. Why has this happened?
Different expectations about marriage
Although every situation is unique, researchers have found some potential reasons. One is that people today have different expectations about marriage.
For instance, people today often ask if the marriage is making them happy. If not, then they may seek a divorce. In the past, they may have been more likely to ask if the marriage was providing them with financial support. Modern couples want a fulfilling marriage—not just financial security—and may decide to leave if that’s not what they have.
Changing social norms
In addition to the changes in the way people see marriage, the way people see divorce has also shifted. Couples just a few generations ago saw divorce as very taboo, and it was incredibly rare. Today, it is common and doesn’t carry the same negative stigma, so couples in 2025 may simply be more likely to see divorce as a viable solution.
Navigating the process
Getting divorced at any age can be complex, but older couples tend to have more assets, which can complicate the process. Those who are going through a divorce need to be sure they understand all of their legal options.